Redeeming the Time…

The last several weeks have been crazy for us. Our third-born child turned 13 this week. My brother in law had surgery yesterday. The appelant brief in my niece’s custody hearing were filed. In just a few short weeks, our oldest graduates high school. In Michigan that means that you have to throw an ‘open house’ for your graduate, which we perceive to be half honoring your child and the people significant in his life and half begging for money.

In a few months, we’ll be taking our oldest to college. Very weird to be in that position. Weeks after that, our middlest turns 16. So many milestone events in one year is somewhat tough to grasp.

Any of these events would be cause for reflection on past events, but I find myself helplessly trapped reminiscing. More than reminiscing, though, is the nagging questions about whether the time was spent in the best way possible. It hasn’t helped going through all of the pictures of the last 18 years while looking for pictures for the open house.

The ‘analysis’ of how I’ve used my time has been rather convicting, but is this conviction necessary? Is it strictly an American concept that awake time must be productive time? Is it okay to just ‘chill’, or should every minute of every day be spent towards creative and proactive parenting?

If you think these questions are tough, what happens when we apply the same analysis to our discipleship? Even the best parents will get a little twinge when evaluating their parenting, but how much more so will Christians when they evaluate their submission to Christ.

This has been on my heart for some time. I’m not sure I’m getting a very high return on my time investment. How about you?

6 Responses to Redeeming the Time…

  1. Wendy says:

    I’ve been listening to http://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Disciplines-Christian-Donald-Whitney/dp/1576830276 on audio (it was free from christianaudio.com a couple of months ago) and Whitney was pretty convicting about how we spend our time.

    • Anonymous says:

      @6462ca08954413c391bc9f604bcb69f9:disqus Thanks for stopping by! I wonder, though, if God didn’t intend for us to take some downtime as well. I know the whole ‘Have to work every second of the day for God’ thing, but I’m not sure how to balance the sabbath into it.

  2. Dee Andrews says:

    Brad – You HAVE had a tremendous number of things going on in your life. I don’t know how you’ve been able to cope, but less think about whether you’re having “a very high return on your time investment.” I would say from my own experience, that you have been doing everything in your power you know to do in all areas of your life. If you’re doing the best you can do (and maybe that’s what you’re questioning), then there’s nothing else left to do. Even if you HAVEN’T, you are where you are right now this minute and nothing past can be changed.

    I think all of us wish we could go back and maybe change some things. I know I do. But, then I realize (mostly thanks to Tom) that I did the best I knew to do at the time under the circumstances and so what I need to do is focus on now. Today – this minute – is all we have for certain in this life.

    We all need to take down time, too, when we can. Sometimes, like in the position you are in, you may even have to “schedule” some down time. Either alone or with your wife. Don’t let that relationship slip away from you, for sure, because your children are all going to be gone sooner than later and your love for each other needs to grow and change as circumstances change.

    That’s my two cents worth today. I’ve been praying for you in all things and will continue to do so. Have a good day today and find time today to let everyone around you know how much you love them. Find someone to smile at and to offer an encouraging word to. If you’ve done those things today, you’re doing well.

    Dee

  3. Ksfras says:

    Even Christ took some “down” time. He only had three years. I don’t know Americans feel they need to be on treadmill all the time. I think you are a great dad and husband. Your beautiful wife is awesome, too. Lots going on in your household. 

    • Anonymous says:

      Thanks, Karen! I’ve often wondered why we feel like we have to be on the
      treadmill as well. Of course, I mean the metaphorical treadmill. I
      completely understand using the real treadmill frequently.

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